Age: 40 Age in Photo: 23 Name: Brenda
Are there things about motherhood that are hard?
I wouldn't say its hard but I think it’s challenging sometimes, trying to juggle everything - trying to be ‘super mom’. Mothers want to be told “you’re excellent” in everything they do so you don’t want to slack off. I don’t want to be a good wife and a horrible mother. Or a good employee and a bad wife. It’s about balancing everything.
I’m 18 now so does parenting stop for you?
It never stops. My dad is still an authority figure and I’m 40 ! It never stops, you never stop being a parent.
Any Celebrity crushes from when you were 18?
I remember the men my mom had crushes on. It’s funny because a lot of the things I knew about popular culture was because of my mom. My mom had crushes on Bruce Willis, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jean-Claude Van Damme - all the big movie stars of that time. For me, LL Cool J was a big deal back then…I had a crush on Tupac much later on. I wish I knew about Obama back then.
What were you Jaded about at 18?
My parents were very strict. I didn’t wear lipstick until I was 18. I couldn't wear certain things … so being 18 was a time when I was just ready to leave the country [Kenya]. I felt that being in a small town limited me. I thought, “I gotta get out of here and see what the world has to offer.” So when I got on my first plane to Dubai I was awestruck, I realized that the world was much bigger than I thought it was.